My experience with Americans led to a wonderful discover: there are two types of secrets. 1) Secrets that you are not supposed to share with others and 2) secrets that you probably can share.
Wow! That is something new. I though secret is something you do not talk about. I was wrong. People actually specify if they don't want you to talk about a secret. Weird! I though I can just say it is a secret and people would know that it is something they should not share with others.
It is quite interesting that people tell you a secret and then they add that it is something you cannot share. So the word "secret" probably has some other meaning than just something that should not be shared... Mystery!
Or maybe it is a common thing here to share secrets? Or maybe it is just a common expectation?
But anyway, anytime someone shares a secret with me and asks not to share it with anyone else - I cant help smiling.
oh yes... international students are not adequate: you share secrets with them and they laugh.
but good lesson for me: do not expect Americans to treat your secrets the same way as you friends from home.
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2 comments:
No. Secrets are secrets. Plain and simple. A secret means you should keep it secret. The problem is people (girls are particularly bad at this) like to gossip and be petty and share information that is not supposed to be divulged. It's hard to truly keep a secret. So, there aren't really two types of secrets here. At least there aren't supposed to be. Really the problem is trust. "Don't trust anybody" is a popular saying. Unfortunately, few people in our culture are trustworthy. There are few people you can TRUST to KEEP your secret.
Right. It just for some reason when people share secret they also say "don't tell anyone" as if I don't know what secret is. Seems like people really share secrets, that's why people stress this "non-sharing" thing.
I though it was funny.
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