love happens

This is slogan of Yahoo personalities. I just loved it. It is so positive.
Isn't it what we all think and dream about?
I just wonder if love just comes upon us, or if we can "create" or "build" it.
Few Americans that I've talked to about this strongly believe that love happens. You cannot do anythings for that... Maybe... I personally prefer more active approach to life.
Back home I've read several books and talked to so many people who believe that love is built by efforts of both sides. They say that once you meet and get so interested in each other is not love. This is just an extreme/very emotional version of liking, not love yet. Love is built with constant desires of being together, doing things for for the other person, but things that are beneficial for "we." And basically, once you've come across any obstacle it is a desire to overcome it together. That's what I've heard from people who've been in happy relations for a significant amount of time. I'm sure they know what they are talking about.

So yes, love happens, but it happens to those who it putting efforts into building it.
(One book that I've read even claims that you can build love from scratch. It even provides techniques for that.)

Let you all have a chance to build a great love and live it.