communicating

How do we communicate? Why do we do it? I always though that communication to a certain extent includes exchange of information. That communication is more effective when is done personally.

Over the course of last 2 weeks I got into situations where I was not sure if I did something wrong, had wrong expectations or the other side was acting badly to me/others.

I hope it is not a cultural thing, but just a person that acts this way. Although even if it just a person it kinda hurts.

Anyway, here is one example:

Today was/is a birthday of one of students who is on the same program with me. A friend of mine, lets say Mr. B., calls me and I tell him that we are celebrating. Mr. B. asks me to say “Happy Bday” to that guy. I’ve asked him to do it himself. Mr. B. came up with reasons not to do it, for example, he though that if he would wish happy bday directly to that guy, this guy will be confused/embarrassed/feeling uncomfortable for not having him invited to the party. Where is the logic? So do you wish Happy Bday only when invited? That is sad. I know it is really SOOOO difficult to call and wish Happy Bday if you don’t care, or at least post on facebook’s wall. But you can make someone smile, isn’t that worth it?